Interrobang Me Hard, Baby

  • On Quitting Self-Blame February 24, 2024 The first time I went to therapy after my child was born, it was because my then husband Garrett told me that there was something wrong with me and I needed to fix myself. He said this while he was having his first affair (which he would not admit…

  • Family is Complicated (and the birds go tweet…) Monday, February 19, 2024 AKA Family Day In the “About” section of this blog, (https://interrobangmehardbaby.blog/about/) I say that I will cover the broad strokes of my life, including complicated family and friendship dynamics. So far I have avoided the topic of family and complicated friendships, except for…

  • Valentine’s Day Interrobang (not as dirty as it sounds…) February 13, 2013 “I can’t wait to see what you have planned for tomorrow night!” says my husband excitedly from across the room. We’re both putting away laundry and tidying our bedroom before bed. My blood runs cold and I feel like I am losing my…

  • On Puberty Blockers February 2024 “At face value I don’t see a problem with waiting for kids to be age of majority for major surgery or drug treatments.”  After Ruby came out as trans, I had a few friends and family who were curious and wanted to know my perspective on many issues. I appreciate…

  • Lost and Found Family December 2017 “Slow down, Chloe, the family doesn’t need to lose both of you in one day.” This was the last thought I had as I was entering the on ramp trying to beat the car that was clearly speeding in the lane I needed to merge into. I took my…

  • On Parenting a Transgender Child February 4, 2024 The original intention for this blog was to present brief snapshots of my life that I thought would help others who might be experiencing similar issues. Parenting my child has been a journey that I never expected, and I knew when I decided to become a mom…

  • In Defense of Self-Compassion January 30, 2024 Ironically, the only person I feel the need to defend self-compassion to is… ME! The original title of this piece was going to be Fuck Self-Compassion or something equally erudite. There’s a whole series of posts in my drafts called Fuck Motivation, Fuck Vulnerability, Fuck Gratitude, and, well,…

  • iii. Multitudes August 2023  “Mom I’m going to tell you something and I need you not to freak the fuck out.” Cold rush of panic punches hard in my gut and chest.   We’re driving through the woods, leaving the camp that my (now adult) child has been at for the past five days. It’s a…

  • What Goes Around… February 2010 Rage. I am feeling intense, roiling, nauseating rage but I can not show it. If I show an ounce of emotion I will be labelled a hysterical mom and no one will take me seriously.   “Yeah, things are fine. It doesn’t really affect our lives at all.“ Rage.  My husband…

  • Why No Divorce?! “You’ve been separated for nine years?! Is there a reason you don’t want to get divorced?” Shit.  The reasons I was separated for nine years without seeking divorce can be summed up in some of the things my ex said to me both while we were together and while we were in…

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